Leaving a controlling group can be a process, one that can take months, even years to do. Thankfully there is a road already paved for us and  there are a number of things you can do.

1. Educate yourself. If you’re just starting to question things, realize this is a process and it may be best to know exactly what you’re dealing with before making any rash decisions. Unless you’re in a dire situation  (in which case call the police), I would start by reading a couple of books about Cults in General.

For starters I recommend Steve Hassan’s book – see side panel on this page for the link to his book on Amazon. A quick Amazon search will lead you to other books on the subject.

2. Join groups – there are hundreds of Ex-religious groups already formed & meeting up weekly. Talking to others with similar experiences is a great form of free “therapy”. Plus you’ll make new friends. If there’s not a group already formed in your area, why not take the lead and create one, there may even be a waiting list for a group in your area.

3. If you’re being shunned by family or friends you can always write to them – they may not even open your letter but they’ll know you’re making an effort and they’ll be thinking about you. Or text them, call and leave a message etc. Not to the point of harassment but every now and then.

4. If you need help getting a loved one out of a controlling organization or cult and would like assistance contact Steve Hassan and The Freedom of Mind Resource Center as they offer reasonably priced Consultations. Their website is an enormous resource in itself.

5. Many former members have already taken the steps to create non-profit organizations / forums / websites to help educate society on the abuses going on in various groups and organizations. Research and support some of the Non-Profits who are taking action.

F.A.C.T. – Families Against Cult Teachings is a non-profit dedicated to raising awareness and education about destructive groups in the United States and abroad. The organization also focuses on working within the law to hold these groups accountable for their illegal actions. Helping victims is also a top priority, to which they offer care, guidance and varies kinds of support.

The HOPE Organization is a non-profit group dedicated to assisting survivors of abuse within Polygamous relationships on their courageous journey to personal freedom. is a site for those who are Questioning their faith in the Mormon Church, and for those who need support as they transition their lives to a normal life. is designed, owned and operated by 3 women who grew up in Scientology and later left. is a website created by a former Scientologists with a lot of information on how to leave.

Advocates for Awareness of Watchtower Abuses is an organization dedicated to raising awareness of the damaging influence of the Watch Tower Society through respectful and well-informed activism.  An organization of Former Members of the International Churches of Christ (ICC) (ICOC)

A quick google search and you’ll find your way to dozens of other sites and resources.

6. Join some of the many social media pages and groups created to raise awareness about destructive groups and cults. For starters here is a link to our Facebook page: TruthRundown.ExposingCults

7. Write to your public officials expressing concern about the abuses happening in various religious groups. Urge them to investigate the numerous claims and stories out there.

8. The next time you get a visit from a Jehovah’s Witness take 5 or 10 minutes to debate some of the main issues their religion enforces. These are someones mother, father, brother or sister – they are coming over uninvited so why not take a few minutes to let them know their church policies are well known about and they are damaging peoples lives.

9. Attend or Coordinate a protest or rally.

10. Support the documentaries  being made to expose the abuses happening inside the Watchtower and Church of Scientology. See our Documentaries page for more information on these.

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